What should be done if the little one uses crying as a method to get whatever he wants, moreover he is in a crying crisis? Experts say skin contact is very important, but he also emphasizes that cuddling the baby in each crying can be addictive. So how do we balance?
Article: Gülru İncu
Her baby’s crying makes every mother nervous. You may think that the world has fallen into your head while your baby is crying, but not every cry is a harbinger of trouble or illness. The baby is usually taken as a first method to relieve these crying. Indeed, this tactics often works. However, the fact that there are different approaches to the baby’s lap has confused us recently. One of these approaches is that the baby is embraced as little as possible… The reason for this is to prevent the baby from getting used to the lap, to indulge and to make the mother comfortable. The other approach is just the opposite. According to this view, an almost adherent life with the mother is suggested for a long time as if the baby is still in the womb. Pedagogue Guzide Soyak from the American Hospital says that babies often cry on their newborns and some of these crying is for no reason. So babies often cry to indicate their needs, and this is their way of communicating. Pedagog Soyak said, “We observe that new parents have a hard time initially finding the causes of these crying and creating appropriate solutions. This process is learned with some trial and error method. “The parents, who started to know their baby, feel that their anxiety has decreased over time.” Özge Merve Türk, Specialist Psychologist from the Department of Child and Adolescent Psychology, Memorial Ataşehir Hospital, states that “the age of 0-2 is not ‘let’s cry’ is not the period” and this period is the stage where the main trust is formed and when it cries, calming, singing and touching relaxes the baby. It attracts.
CAUSING REASONS VARIOUS VARIOUS
Well let’s come to the core of the subject; why are these children crying? There can actually be many reasons why children cry. They often indicate need, especially with regard to nutrition. Being too small, not being able to absorb strong and long, can cause them to cry out this problem. In the mother’s safe arms, suckling breasts with love and compassion relaxes the babies. In addition, they can express the contamination of the gold, the temperature differences caused by the space and the clothes, and the health-related problems. Babies may want to be on the lap when they don’t have any problems. Pedagogue Güzide Soyak says that she generally observes laps in crowded families and babies with care problems. Psychologist Ebru Ermiş believes that a single approach to cuddling the baby is not correct. Ermiş, who says “Every baby and every mother-baby relationship is different, what is important is to do this to meet the baby’s needs” emphasizes that babies have started to express themselves since birth and even during pregnancy and that they are looking for the presence of parents who are eager to listen to them.
NO IDEAL FORMULA
So what do we do? Should we embrace it or not? Actually, there is no ideal formula for babies being on mothers lap. The relationship and development that each baby establishes with his parents determines this process. “Being on lap means not only for the baby but also for the mother. Pedagog Soyak says that when mothers understand and meet the needs of the baby, babies who want to have a basic sense of trust will want to be less on lap. Comfortable and loving approaches cause the baby to call the mother less and thus cry less. Some babies may need touch and attention more. It is recommended that babies in this style are embraced, but released after relaxation. Being in an area where eye contact can be established is also good for babies. Soyak states that as the baby grows, crying crises will regulate, his tolerance will increase, but if he still cries as often, for no reason, and prefers to stay on lap constantly, this situation should be addressed in terms of family dynamics.